Love and Jealousy

Sadhana

It is difficult to find lovers who are not jealous of each other. Even though it creates misery people go on clinging to it because jealousy is considered to be a sign of deep love. If your woman or your man goes with somebody else and you don't feel jealous at all, you will start questioning your love. Both the partners will think they don’t love enough.
The initial romance and rosy magic between two lovers dries into the desert of jealousy and possessiveness. But everybody clings to jealousy because they would like to cling to the false idea of love. Jealousy has become an intrinsic part of love- life as it is commonly understood. Lovers think if they want their relationship to continue, they will have to accept their jealousy and the misery that is created by it.
It is a catch 22 situation. But it is based on sheer misunderstanding of love.
Osho has prescribed a fool-proof remedy that can help you drop jealousy and other petty feelings and fly high in the realm of love. “ Go deeper into your feelings. Don’t avoid them. But remember one thing: jealousy, insecurity etc are separate from you. You are the witness; as you go deeper, you will come across many things which you have suppressed; but you are as pure as a mirror. When you are going deeper, the mirror reflects jealousy, but the mirror is not jealousy. Just as the mirror reflects buffalo standing in front, the mirror doen't become the buffalo! The mirror is not identified with anything that it reflects -- the mirror is just empty, silent, clean.
In meditation you will come to recognize that you are the mirror. All other things are reflected in you. A mirror is just a reflecting phenomenon; so are you. Be a mirror, and then all these problems, whatever their names, will start disappearing -- they are only reflections. You need not try to get rid of them. The very idea of getting free of them still accepts that they are realities of your being.”
Courtesy Osho International Foundation