Friday, January 4, 2008

Scared of making a decision?

Amrit Sadhana

It is said that good managers are those that make quick decisions. Which means they are willing to take responsibility for their decisions. The question is, what is it that prevents the rest of us from making decisions? What's the fear? The fear of taking responsibility, or the fear of failure or making mistakes? Osho aptly calls this fear 'decidophobia.'

Decision making becomes a phobia for many people due to the faulty thinking that goes behind it. One - they think that by not making a decision they do not make a mistake. Now, they have already made a mistake by making this decision. Two - that there is only one right answer. This is not the case, but thinking this way makes the prospect of decision-making overwhelming. What will help is facing the simple fact that you can't foresee the future, and can only make a decision with the data you have at the time you make it. So just go for it!

Making a decision is an intuitive process, you cannot learn it in the school. Either you have it or you don't have. Osho supports it totally because decision making makes people independent." The more decisive you become, the more integrated you become. Of course, it is very dangerous, but life is dangerous. There are possibilities of going astray or you may err, but one learns by erring. Life is trial and error.
" Going astray, you will learn something, you will become richer. You can come back and you will be happy that you went astray, because there are many things which can be learnt only by going astray. There are things which can be learnt only if you are courageous enough to make mistakes. Remember only one thing: don't make the same mistake again.
"My suggestion is that whenever you have to choose, always choose the unknown, because the known you have already lived. Never miss the unknown. Always choose the unknown and go headlong. Even if you suffer, it is worth it -- it always pays. "

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